Having trust issues ? Here are 5 ways to prevent it from ruining your relationship

You may have a hard time trusting your partner not because of what they have done but as a result of
past personal experiences. But your trust issue can be resolved if you are true to yourself, trusting your
heart and instincts before you can really trust someone else.
Rick Clemons of YourTangolists 5 ways to prevent your trust issues from ruining your relationship:
1. Trust Yourself:I know it's already been said, but this is truly the starting point of resolving trust issues.
In the somewhat similar words of Ru Paul, "If you can't trust yourself, how the hell ya ever going to trust
someone else?" (Uh hum! Preach, sistah!)
2. Define What Trust Means:… for you and your partner. Hello, we ain't mind readers, and if you believe
you are, then why are you having trust issues? You'd already know what your partner is thinking. For the
rest of us, ask (as in: your partner … for the info you need) and ye shall receive. Talk about trust. Discuss
it! Discover what might make trust issues arise in your unique relationship.
3. Take A Look In The Mirror:I hate to say it, but often, trust issues arise because what you see in
someone else is an issue directly reflecting something you don't want to see in yourself. It could be that
you're fearful your partner is cheating because you're the considering an affair (or might already be
involved physically or emotionally with someone else). You may not even realize it's causing wicked
scripts of. "Cheater is as cheater does," to play out in the fabulous stage play that is your real life. Look
at yourself, and ask, "What's really going on with my trust issues?" The honest answer may shock you, but
it could also stop you from being a crazy maker.
4. Have An Open Relationship:GASP. Did I just advocate having an open relationship? YES! As in an "open,
transparent, let's communicate, and quit hiding that we each have trust issues, admit our stuff"
relationship. No, this doesn't mean you take on different lovers (although if that makes the trust issues
scamper away, more power to you). But what I'm really advocating for is being open and vulnerable so
that trust issues become dead non-issues, rather than a dead relationship!
5. Give Trust To Get Trust:If you put trust in, you'll get some back. One of the hardest parts about trust,
and resolving trust issues, is giving trust freely. However, when it's a gift that keeps on giving, then it's
easy to see trust issues retreat. That said, the moment you take trust without giving it back in return,
you've abused the vulnerable gesture the other person offered you. And, no one appreciates being abused